Sabotage

Hi
Some of us have huge self-destruct buttons! Whenever we decide to do something that's good for us, we take one step forward and two steps back!. Life becomes a series of events in which we try to undo all the damage of the prior self destruct buttons being pressed.
Dieting is a great example of this. We have to go on it because we have been over-indulgent in the past and put on weight, then when we start on the diet, or the second we decide to go on the diet, we are sorely tempted by all the foods that will put the weight back on and more!
It would appear that we are always attracted to that which is bad for us! All of a sudden, whenever we decide to make improvements, we get obsessed by all the temptations that will do the opposite!
Whenever we decide to work on our confidence, we seem to fail at everything we try, or listen even more to all our negative thoughts about how useless we are. Whenever we decide to get out of our poverty consciousness, a load of unexpected bills arrive that make us give attention even more to the fact that we're skint!
It can appear that we are tempted by the devil! In fact, what is more likely is that what is active in our minds are our sabotaging beliefs that create tension and fear. They are our own 'demons' created by us in the past as a result of difficult experiences. At the time of formation they would have served a function as our attempt to make sense of the experience or to stop us getting hurt by any experience that is similar in the future.
For example, we might have experienced rejection by someone important to us, and often more than once, which could lead us to feeling empty and having a belief that we are unloveable, and that we can't trust people. Add to this a load of beliefs about thin people being more loveable and successful and gorgeous, and a 'memory'of treating ourselves in the past with lovely fattening foods, associating eating with comfort and 'self-nurturing', and we are set up in life to be a cyclical dieter and binger!
So, what would stop the sabotage?
Maybe success in the diet through sheer will power and persistence would be enough to make us let go of some of our self-deprecating beliefs, that would make the diet become easier, but the millions spent on the diet industry and the growing problem of obesity in the western world, suggests that just doing that doesn't work too well.
'Experts' tell us just to persist and persevere, and those that do have a better chance of success because they are not giving their sabotaging thoughts and beliefs any attention. When they appear, they get ignored and it's back to the diet.
The trouble comes when those 'demons' are louder than the sensible, logical desire to lose the weight. When this happens, dieting is pointless or can even be bad as we really do take one step forward and two steps back, or 10 pounds off and 12 pounds back on!
The degree of attachment we have to our sabotaging beliefs will determine how hard we have to work to get anywhere.
It's like driving a car with the brakes on. No matter what direction we take, or what task we take on, these 'brakes' will be active, unless we decide to let them off, i.e. let the thoughts go!
A lot of the thoughts will be from self-deprecating beliefs formed in childhood, given to us by our well-meaning parents and teachers, which was the fashionable way to make model citizens when I was a child!
But, what if we just made a decision to let go of all sabotaging beliefs, whether we can identify them or not?
The best way I know to do this is with energy therapies. Z point process takes advantage of the fact that we already know deep down what these beliefs are, and so does EFT and TAT.
How great would it be if we could start our journey by taking off the brakes first?
Check my web site for more information. www.stressalternatives.co.uk.
All the best
Liz