Post Holiday Resolutions

Happy summertime!

There's certain times of the year that are ripe for making positive changes. The main one is at New Year when people decide on resolutions, and for me, another one comes after the summer break. As I've just got the kids off to school for the new term, my own intentions are set again to 'sort out' things I'm not happy with, let go of a few things that create clutter and really get down to the business of my New Year's resolutions.

This year, I've felt more than others that I can do this as I have set more definite goals than ever before, and have kept them in my mind often, and have found ways of keeping the sabotage under control. I believe that the sabotage has always managed to stop me before.

Whenever we set an intention to improve things for ourselves, our sabotage or 'self-destruct' parts show up pretty quickly. Where do they come from? It's tempting to think it's the devil testing us, and some people buy into this, and who am I to argue? Maybe the 'devil' is just that destructive part of us rather than a malevolent power outside of ourselves.

For example, when you start on the diet, what do you see all around but lovely fattening food! When you decide to declutter your house, you go down with extreme fatigue, or get taken off on a 2 hour trip into nostalgia when you come across your old photos, or suddenly you MUST watch this very interesting daytime TV show about the latest fashion to hit the swimwear industry, even though you can't swim!

In my work with people with anxiety and depression, of course it is nearly always everyone's intention to 'get better', and I have lots of suggestions to help with this; many that really work, but people either don't carry out my suggestions, or do it for a bit, experience changes for the better, but then stop doing the work with lots of different excuses. I can forgive them for this as I do it too. But why? If it makes things better, why not keep doing it? Sometimes it's because it's very hard work, and it is if we don't deal with the sabotage buttons in our mind. It's like driving the car with the brakes on.

One of the biggest sabotage buttons is mistrust of the process. A feeling that, 'This won't work', or that, 'What's the point? I'll only fail!' will act as our 'brakes'. Some people form such a strong belief that they are always right (not me!) that the sabotage buttons will always be pressed if even a small part of them has this belief.

How quickly the sabotage shows up after a good intention is set will give a measure of how big it is. Trouble is, it's not always something you can explain. Yes, it's obvious it's there because it stops us achieving, but to say 'Aha, that's because I am frightened of change', eg when working on confidence, or 'That's because I feel guilty about letting go' when working on a bereavement, isn't easy. The reasons for sabotage could be many and could take years figuring it all out with a therapist.

But what if you could get a metaphorical vacuum cleaner that sucked out all the sabotaging beliefs, thoughts and emotions? Even the ones we are unaware of, ie, our subconscious ones, which are usually a lot like the submerged part of an iceberg, ie, a huge part of us.

This year, I found a particularly effective cleanser for my subconscious sabotagers, in the form of the Z point process. Here's a small example of how I used it the other day. I had the task of cleaning my house hanging over me like a huge dark cloud and felt so fatigued (I'm a bit averse to housework!). I used the Z point process' ETT technique before I got started, then had a brilliantly productive day. I'm so chuffed! Placebo? Well that's another subject for another day!

Check these websites: www.Zpointprocess.com
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